Top Discipline Mistakes Parents Make

Parents do see their discipline efforts backfire at times. The reason is, we are parents, but still we too are humans. There is no harm in accepting that we are learning and improving as we grow. However, if you do not pay attention to the common discipline mistakes normally parents do, it is quite possible you too would make the same mistakes and will not get desired results.

So, here, we have come up with discipline mistakes parents make.

Disciplining when angry

The biggest mistake parents do is that they take disciplinary action when they are angry. It is simple, when you are scolding your child on anything and you are angry, you might take harsh step or say something that you may not mean. This may hurt your child and you never know that might stay in his mind forever.

You should calm yourself down first and then listen to what your child has to say. You will be able to judge better and handle in the right manner.

Being fickle

Parents are inconsistent in following their own rules. For example, you scold your child one day for not keeping his toys and books in place and the other day you ignore that. This is not going to convey the right message to your child.

You should make some rules and stick to them. It is good to inculcate the habit of cleaning the room or keeping it clean in your child. Always give simple and clear directions so that your child follows immediately and smoothly.

Not respecting their kids

Yes, kids also need respect and recognition. Remember respect is a two-way street. If you want your child to respect you, you should respect his feelings and personality.

Negative approach

You want your child to have positive approach always, but when you talk to your child your sentences have lots of “No” and “Don’ts”.

Instead of focusing on the wrong your child did, try to offer suggestions to make things better. For example, if your child is talking rudely or answering back, instead of telling not to be rude, show him how he can talk in a friendlier manner.

Lectures

Parents normally give lectures, which are often repeated ones. They get deviated from the actual path and head towards something that has no connection with the present situation. In such situations, your child gets confused and does not understand what you want to say.

Instead, focus on the subject and give basic and to-the-point advice.

Considering discipline and punishment equal

Many parents think that discipline means punishing their kids. So, either they punish them to discipline them or do nothing just because they do not want to hurt their kids.

Remember, when you are disciplining your child, you are showing him the right way to do things in life and public. Even if you need to punish, it should be sensible and compassionate.

Do not practice what they preach

When you are teaching your child not to say lies, make sure you never tell a lie. Live up to the example you are setting for your child.